More than fourteen years ago I left the corporate world to be a full-time mom to our seven children (though one is in heaven.) Our newest daughter had just arrived home at only five months old. Our oldest had just gotten married.
Being at home full-time meant that we would finally be less rushed, better fed, more healthy, organized and on-time to every appointment. I dreamed of completing creative projects and taking beautiful photos of our growing, adorable children. I imagined harmonious days of closeness, baking hot cookies to welcome my kids’ arrival home from school, eating home-cooked dinners followed by cozy nights reading books together before nodding off to sleep. Life would be so much better!
Reality, however, was different. I had totally underestimated the amount of attention my then four-year-old son would need (and deserved.) Taking care of a young baby took lots of energy as well. The house was more chaotic and messier with everyone at home all day. My To Do List got longer and longer.
In fact, now that I was home 24/7 I could see so many project possibilities every day. Up close they looked more numerous, urgent and necessary than ever. Yet it seemed like I was getting less done at home than when I was working 50 – 60 hours a week. It was hard to finish a thought much less a project with two young children needing care all day plus two more coming home every afternoon and two more independent children needing encouragement. I starting feeling overwhelmed and uptight just as I had when I was working full-time. I felt exactly the opposite of how I had imagined I would feel.
Being a research geek, I knew there had to be something I could learn that could help me. I looked in the library, in bookstores and on-line (the internet was just beginning to blossom.) After all, mothers have been doing this job forever. How hard could it be?
Aloha, Auntie Lynn
The journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step. ~ Lao-tzu
I want my children, grandchildren and readers to know that living in the sweet spot is one of those easy/hard things to do. You all know what I mean by ‘living in the sweet spot’ — it is when you feel confident, energized and focused. In the zone. With the force. In the groove.
Living in the sweet spot became easier for me when I defined the life I wanted. Going for that life puts me in my sweet spot. It is really that simple.
It is also hard because defining the life I want takes time and energy and experience (both good and bad.) Plus I never stop defining what I want because my definition, like me, evolves. I do believe that my framework has given me the tools, and the push I need to get closer and closer to what is really important in my life.
It is not only possible but also critical to live my life in the sweet spot for that is the way I fulfill my promise, live my potential and make my unique difference in the world. Living that way makes me happy (and I want you to be happy, too.)
In this blog I write about how I use my Framework4Life to help define my best life and channel my energy in the direction that is right for me. It keeps me organized and helps me understand that everything I do, however small, is another step toward achieving my life’s mission.
I think my Framework4Life will work for you, too. You can use it anywhere. All you need is a piece of paper and a pencil or pen (or a keyboard and a computer/smartphone.)
I want to give you the benefit of my experience plus point you to others who have made a difference in my life because I hope it will make your life easier. Maybe you’ll avoid some of the mistakes I made. Most likely you’ll make you own mistakes : ). Don’t worry. I have found that learning what not to do is just as valuable as learning what to do.
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Aloha, Auntie Lynn